Adoption and Foster Care Questions
When people hear that we have 18 kids and 10 at home, I get asked a lot of questions about adoption and foster care. One question that is asked the most is — “How big is your house?” or “Your house must be huge!”. With the exception of one larger house, I’ve never had a “big” house.
The assumption is that it would have to be 6 bedrooms and 4000 square feet. Not at all. It’s not about the space you have, but how you use that space. Certainly, a house has to meet certain requirements — we couldn’t move our brood into a 2 bedroom apartment, but we also don’t need to have 4000 square feet. There was a time I was sucked into that philosophy. That I needed more. More space, more stuff. Then I realized I have to clean it and maintain it. I also realized we don’t need it.
Most time in any home — regardless of the overall size — is spent in the same 400 square feet. The living room, dining room, kitchen are the areas I care about the most. Following that are the yard and the part of town we’re in as nearly equal in importance. Home is a verb — it’s more action. What we do, how we spend time, the love we share, the things we do. It can be anywhere from a tent to a trailer to 4000 square feet.
The second most popular question I get is something like — “do you know what causes children” — or some equally obnoxious and rude question. My reply — because I like to address things dead-on — is something equally obnoxious like, “Why yes, I know what causes children. You’re lucky I didn’t have at least 20!”. Feel free to ask why or how — about anything like foster care, adoption, or blended families.
Originally published at https://www.momof18.com.
Jenn is Mom of 18, Transformational Coach for Christian women, host of At A Crossroads with The Naked Podcaster, Author, Runner, Minimalist, & Healthy Lifestyle Advocate
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